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To the Mom Who Feels Like She’s Failing at the One Thing She Was Sure God Called Her To…

  Let’s be honest. Some days you feel like the circus clown… Only the clowns have more help and better costumes. Your “classroom” is the kitchen table. Your students? One’s crying, one’s hiding, one’s asking you a question that sounds like it came straight out of a college exam. Meanwhile, the baby’s screaming, the dog just threw up on the rug, and the toddler… well… let’s just say the peanut butter was NOT supposed to be art supplies. And you? You’re standing there with cold coffee, wondering how in the world you ended up in charge of someone’s entire education. "Maybe I’m in over my head." "Maybe I’m wrecking their future." "Maybe they’d be better off with a real teacher." You’ve seen those Instagram-perfect homeschool moms… Neat handwriting on the whiteboard, shelves arranged by color, kids smiling like they just won the lottery for Most Well-Behaved Family. You’ve tried to copy them. You’ve stayed up past midnight rearranging books, printing lesson ...

The First Step to a Devout Life: Purifying the Soul

In Chapter 5 of Introduction to the Devout Life, St. Francis de Sales provides a powerful reminder that the first step to living a life of holiness begins with purification. Like flowers appearing on the earth, our hearts blossom with good desires when we are ready to start the journey of devotion. But just as plants need pruning to grow, our souls need to be freed from dead or harmful habits that block our relationship with God.

Think of it this way: When someone is about to join a new family or start a new chapter in their life, they often let go of old ways, preparing themselves for a fresh start. Similarly, if we wish to be united with Christ, we must let go of sin and everything that hinders us from loving God fully.

Saint Francis makes it clear that for most people, this purification is not something that happens overnight. While some saints were blessed with sudden conversions, like St. Paul and St. Mary Magdalene, most of us will experience spiritual growth slowly and steadily. Just like a wound that heals over time or the sun that rises gradually at dawn, we must be patient and consistent in our efforts.

Imagine climbing a ladder. You don’t jump to the top in one leap, but rather step by step. Our spiritual journey is like that, and even though we may feel impatient or discouraged when we see our imperfections, it’s important to remember that growth takes time.



One of the greatest dangers in our spiritual life is either becoming disheartened by our mistakes or thinking we are already perfect after just a little progress. Saint Francis warns that both attitudes can lead us astray. If we give up too soon, we risk losing everything we’ve gained. If we think we’re finished too early, we may stop growing before God is done working in us.

The key is persistence. Our imperfections are not the enemy—giving up is. Striving against our faults and growing in humility are marks of true progress. Sometimes, even falling short can be an important reminder of how much we rely on God’s grace.

In the end, our journey of purification is lifelong, and it’s only completed when we meet God face to face. St. Francis reminds us not to lose heart. The fact that we struggle with imperfections does not mean we’ve failed. As long as we are fighting the good fight and refusing to give up, we will eventually triumph with God’s help.

So, let us remember to trust in God, keep working, and never give in to despair. Even when we stumble, we are on the path of purification and holiness. With patience, persistence, and God's grace, we will grow into the fullness of life that He desires for us.


In this chapter, St. Francis shows us that the road to spiritual health is slow and challenging, but it’s a road worth walking. Each step, though small, leads us closer to God. Don't be discouraged by imperfections; instead, see them as an opportunity for growth and trust in the process. With determination and humility, anyone can walk this path, regardless of education or background. The key is to start, stay the course, and lean on God's strength in every step.

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